I had one of those "bad mom" type of evenings... you mothers know the kind. I'm not used to it!... it's usually a "bad dad" if anything! : ) (Sorry Tone).
Tonight Madison semi-politely confided in me that, "It's sort of embarrassing when you sing along to the radio when I have a friend in the van." Ouch...strike one! I know this is normal "embarrassment" type of feelings for girls but I wonder if she's embarrassed about that...what else is she embarrassed about?! I mean, I can at least carry a tune and am not at all "pitchy"... (Idol fans, that was for you). She's only 10... the pre-teen is already starting. : * (
So, I said I would try not to sing in front of her friends. (sniff-sniff).
The second strike came tonight when she was called and invited to a movie tomorrow night with a girl from her class. She has been telling me all week that she thinks she is going to be invited and that she told Jazmin that she couldn't go to PG-13 movies. I was proud of her for that! Well, guess what? Jazmin finally calls tonight and invites her to see Blades of Glory. Now if you will click on that title and read the review, I'm sure you will agree with me that 10 year old girls have no business seeing a movie like this... yes, the main idea of the story does sound interesting but come on! But it was embarrassing for Madison to have to tell her again no, because "my mom" doesn't let me go to PG-13 movies when "all of the 4th grade has already seen it." Did you know that?... pretty remarkable that all ninety 4th graders have already seen this movie... hmmm, I so remember exaggerating like this and to my mom and dad, I'm sorry!!! They ended up having a "well what movie can you see?" conversation and the compromise is seeing Are We Done Yet? This isn't my first choice but there are only 2 PG movies at Linway right now and she was too embarrassed to suggest Firehouse Dog which I think looked the most appropriate!!! I know this is just the top of the iceberg with the mother-daughter conflicts. I don't know Jazmin's family but apparently she is getting a group of 3 other girls together to go to the movies because her mom and dad just got divorced last week and her dad is getting re-married... and Jazmin had lice this week at school and her soon-to-be step mom made her get her cut really short, and, and, and.....! Anyone else feeling my pain? I know all girls need good influences in their life and I do believe that Madison does the right thing and is a good influence. I'm embarrassed to say that then I was thinking, oh great, she's going to want her to come home from school with her and spend the whole evening with her, and this lice thing is freaking me out... but actually Jazmin asked if I could drop her off at the movies and so I said, "Sure! and I'll pick you up too!" I've already warned my newly embarrassed prone daughter that I will walk her in and meet her mom etc... She sounded OK with that (inside she'll probably be dying).
I don't know about your children, but mine did not come with instruction manuals. But if they did, I would be flipping to the "How to guarantee your children will turn out OK" chapter and then I would look up "What to do in this situation..." chapter. HEY, may be if I survive the adolescent years, I'll write a book like this.
Anyway, I'm going to seriously pray about this attitude (her's and mine). I know I've made good choices but it sure wasn't fun tonight.
Love to all, Leah
He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1 : 6
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